A Lesson in Communication: Unraveling the Veil
While observing someone having trouble with their dog, I noticed an interesting communication style. They didn't directly tell the dog what they wanted to happen; instead, they used a series of high-pitched gibberish that seemed to express their feelings. This made me realize that some people use a similar approach when communicating with people.
I've found this method exhausting. My natural inclination was to wish for them to say what they wanted directly.
But then, I began to consider: are there benefits to this form of indirect communication?
Could it be a way for them to maintain a certain level of personal autonomy, or cultivate deeper connections with those who take the time to understand them?
I decided to further explore this and found that there are indeed several possible benefits of indirect communication:
- Preservation of Autonomy: This style allows individuals to maintain control over their needs, desires, and emotions, revealing their intentions at their own pace and comfort level.
- Avoidance of Confrontation: It can minimize potential conflict by softening statements or requests, and subtly expressing needs or wants.
- Cultivation of Deeper Connections: When effectively understood, it can lead to deeper interpersonal connections. It requires the receiver to invest time and effort into understanding the sender's message.
- Face-Saving Mechanism: It allows for 'saving face' or 'back-tracking' in difficult or sensitive situations, avoiding potential embarrassment or awkwardness.
- Cultural Sensitivity: In certain cultural contexts, indirect communication is a valued social skill, showing respect and understanding of social nuances.
- Flexibility: It provides a way to express oneself while leaving room for flexibility and adaptation based on the receiver's reactions.
Seeing these benefits, I started to appreciate the potential value of this style of communication.
Though direct communication is my preference, at least now I understand this is a different style of communication and doesn't stem from an inability to be direct.